Elephant riders in real life

We are trying to understand the achievement of human happiness making use of the metaphor linking human existance to the relationship between an elephant and a rider. An elephant and a rider must be understood as a relationship since the combination of the two is much more than the sum of the parts.

1. The elephant is the basic producer and consumer for happiness. The rider alone can't create or sufficiently experience happiness. Like a coach it can plan the game and review the films, but not win the game or experience the victories.

2. The riderless elephant is not well equipped to navigate a modern complex world for happiness. There are too many choices to make, and the immediate situation cannot sustain and satisfy the elephant for long.

I found this site interesting because it enlarges upon the nature of elephant-rider relationships.

http://www.elephant.se/elephant_training.php?open=Elephant%20training

Elephants are dangerous to work with, if you are not acting right.To act right, is learning how they act, and follow this system.To behave like an elephant, is the secret. Forget about human feelings, our definitions about right or wrong, just follow the easy rules of the elephants. If you do, its risky, but less dangerous. Walking on a street is also risky, so what is the difference?

Isn't this fascinating concept, to forget about "our definitions about right or wrong?" To be a successful and happy rider, we must "follow the easy rules of the elephant." The relationship is inherently risky as well, to work with the elephant is dangerous but rewarding.

To really know my elephant heart, what are the simple rules that I must understand?